On the evening of October 11, 2013, a boy from Shanghai University of Finance and Economics prepared a candle to light it and set it in the shape of I love you in order to express his love to the girls.
Unexpectedly, the girl in her dormitory took a full basin of water and spilled it on the boy’s head.
I thought a lot of girls would sympathize with this man, but I didn’t expect a few female fans I asked, all of them, to be deeply disgusted with this kind of thing and clap their hands.
It’s really interesting.
There is a saying that good intentions do good deeds.
In pursuit of their favorite girl, also because too anxious, motivation is good, but do things, but also bring the other side a bad impression, or even disgust.
Originally wanted to pursue girls, the result became harassment, let the other side hate very much, avoid it.
How can we distinguish between “pursuit” and “harassment”?
1, will it cause trouble to girls?
2, if you are a girl, do you think this behavior is not appropriate?
If you can’t imagine yourself as a girl, then you can wonder if you’d be tempted to beat someone if someone else used this tactic to pursue a girl you like.
Seekers handsome not handsome, good or bad conditions, girls have a favorite degree of pursuers, three are placed in the above two conditions of the operation of variables.
Variables affect the outcome, but even if the pursuer is handsome and the condition is good, but behaves like a pervert.. or will not have a good result.
Give a chestnut: send flowers
I’ve heard of a boy who sent a huge bunch of thousands of roses to the girl’s office, causing a stir, and the girl later smelled terrible at the boy’s face.
Because of that bunch of flowers, the girl was called to the supervisor there to scold, after all, the turbulent office.. Who is in the mood to work?
Again, don’t let girls feel threatened by themselves.
The expression of “I love you so much, my heart can be pulled out to show you” affection, is after the exchange of things.
Before, during the pursuit, even when a girl is still with you “classmate, I think I don’t know you well…” the more you show your heart and lungs, the girl will only worry, in case you refuse you, you pull out your heart and lungs to do something you can’t think of, will become a social news headline.
There are boys and girls to phone refused, followed by girls off work, found that girls live near their home, and then several days to the girls downstairs waiting, so that girls do not dare to go home just want to call the police.
The boy said, “I am a good man, with a good education and occupation, is a normal white, not a criminal, I just want to know more girls, from a friend when very good, to call, QQ. I came downstairs and waited for a while. I didn’t wait long. I didn’t wait many days. Why should I be a pervert? ”
How can a girl know that you are a good person?
If today is your favorite girl, I think you would also like to call the police.
There is a difference between hospitality and radicalism. If you think about it, you will know where it is.
Enthusiasm can sometimes be a bonus, but make sure that the girl feels good about you and shows it.
Otherwise, in the process of pursuing, girls are still testing water and warm, so you can soak people in hot water.
Do you cook soup, brother?
In fact, many TV dramas are really not suitable for pursuing early use. Unfortunately, most of the boys just want to show their sincerity, but never consider the feelings of girls.
The pursuit of girls is a process, first of all, to reduce their sense of need and build trust.
This is a very simple reason why girls are being talked about at first. They are very vigilant at first, because they do not trust you. If you show too strong a sense of need, girls are not afraid of you.
When she is willing to make friends with you, you begin to attract, invite, ambiguity, and establish relationships with her. For boys who are not rich in love experience, the whole process can not be reduced.
Determining relationships, that is to say, is ultimately successful, not because you express yourself, but because of what you have done before.
So… No matter how touching your words are, how prepared you are, if there is no front mattress, she is not “attracted” to you, she will not only not accept you, and even think you are harassing. If you’re lucky, you can take a good person card. If you’re not lucky, it may turn the girl’s eyes, just like the boy who has been bucketed.
The confession, in fact, is just a simple ritual. When you know that the other person has liked you, you express your inner thoughts to her, and she promises you to let it go. If a girl already likes you, whether you are a simple sentence or a heart-shaped candle is not the most important thing.
You may ask, I and she usually chat very good, have a joke, also often contact me, this is not like me?
I can only say, maybe, maybe not.
Women are sometimes more intimate and talkative to their boyfriends than their boyfriends, but boyfriends are just boyfriends. You know, if you become a boyfriend, it’s not so easy to reverse. The problem is that many people become girlfriends and still feel good about themselves, thinking that the other person likes him.
So… How do you make sure she likes you?
Judging by the Women’s Interest Index (IOI), if you’ve been holding hands successfully and the other person has not resisted, and your intimacy has been accomplished naturally, and you’re willing to be alone and kiss smoothly, that’s 100% of you.
At this time, you do not declare that she is more anxious than you, heh heh.
Not every love, is love at first sight, let alone most men are ordinary people, not Professor Li Minhao handsome, so do not live in the TV series, slowly, step by step to let her like you.