Recently many friends have asked the question of borrowing money, I think many friends want to know, should not lend money to girls like? Today we will talk about this topic.
Someone said, “if you want to destroy a friend, lend it to him.”
I can see that money talks really hurt feelings.
Looking back on the experience of borrowing money, I really destroyed many “friends” and reaped many true friendships.
They’re usually like this. After lending them money, there’s very little contact, and I don’t actively contact them, because I know, even if I ask for it, it doesn’t make sense, because you keep it in mind that you’re sure to return it the first time, instead of waiting to be urged.
Friends who have strong friendship have such characteristics. They borrow money to understand the urgent need at the moment. For example, something happened at home, and my family fell ill.
In either case, I wouldn’t take the initiative to ask, and when the other side didn’t pay me back, they would avoid me, probably because we haven’t relieved the “debt” relationship, they are under pressure, they can’t face me easily and naturally, in order to avoid embarrassment and keep away from me, I also understand, when When the other party paid off the money he owed me, we resumed normal relations.
Friendship is like this, but the relationship between lovers is weaker than friends, so it is more prudent to talk about money.
If you want to chase a girl, you have to consider that if you lend her money, it will bring her psychological pressure, and partners who have such experience can certainly understand why. If you don’t want to be friends with her, but if you want to catch up with her, don’t lend money to her easily. Related links: girls who want to chase borrow money from you, should they borrow it?
But if you’re already together, it’s a little different.
Together, it shows that you have to share the difficulties and difficulties. You can not ignore them.
But one thing to note is not to borrow more money than you can afford.
For example, you have just graduated, wages are not high, facing rent, life pressure, 1000 yuan may be a month rent, if you lend her, she did not say when to return you, at this time you face a life of hardship, will she be dissatisfied?
So when borrowing money, pay attention to the scope of acceptance, even if she does not return you, will not be greatly affected, psychological will not be uncomfortable.
In modern society, borrowing money from people around us is not only uneconomical, but also not conducive to interpersonal communication. It is a major obstacle for people to get along well with each other.
If the other person is really in urgent need of money, set the amount of money borrowed as the minimum amount of trouble for themselves, or you will not only borrow money or not come back, more likely to lose a friend, a lover.