Why do some people become good gentlemen? Some people are regarded as spare tire by girls? Some people will only be surrounded by girls as satellites, but with no chance at all.
I read the messages from my brothers these days, and I found that there are still many brothers who do not know the basic process of bringing their sisters together.
I divide the process into 3 parts:
1, get her attention by showing value, so that you have the opportunity to catch up with her.
2, by mobilizing her emotions to build attraction, that is, let her like you.
3, by expressing her interest in her relationship, she turns her friends into intimate lovers.
The process of chasing girls is to show value (no need to ask), then mobilize emotions (create attraction), and then show interest (comfort), with each window to upgrade intimacy.
1, show value
High value is divided into two aspects: social value + survival and reproduction value.
Mainly through their own social circles to reflect, if you are around friends are praising the object, and do anything, everyone will ask you to make ideas, let you participate, often have the opposite sex to take the initiative to chat with you, can easily chat with them, this is a good social certification.
In the Internet, such as unfamiliar street and WeChat, we should pay special attention to the shaping of social value.
For example, personal information, stranger picture grid, Weixin friends circle, should find opportunities to show their value in this respect.
Show pictures, not all self-portraits, you can take pictures of your life (such as: home image, kitchen, living room, playing with pets, reading pictures), work and study, work together with colleagues, collective activities photos, it is best to put together a photo of the opposite sex (not the kind of right-hugged left), all of this. It can enhance your social value.
In real life, in addition to ensuring proper social behavior, it is also necessary to cultivate a number of co-operative bureaucracies.
When you open a beautiful girl group in a bar and have a good conversation, you can borrow the opportunity to go to the bathroom. If the target is interested in you, you’ll definitely ask your friends a lot about you. Social certification works.
If your bureaucracy works well, helps you create high value, and you get back to your seat, she’s more attractive to you, and it’s easy to go on a separate date elsewhere.
Because just know your girl, do not understand you, you boast that she does not necessarily trust, third-party perspective will not appear such a problem. If you have a female bureaucrat, that’s even better, because a female bureaucrat can help you chat up, open the group, which requires a certain heterosexual relationship.
Survival and reproductive values, including image, wealth, career, self-confidence, loyalty to women and so on, must send a positive message that the other person feels responsible for having sex with this man if he has a big stomach, and that the offspring will be fine.
Women’s judgments about the value of life also include your potential, so a man who is always in a coquettish mood and does not want to be aggressive will not be a good woman willing to make love by body.
Therefore, men have confidence in themselves and do not satisfy the current situation, so that they can achieve real self-confidence. The more deliberate, the more confident the performance.
2, mobilize emotions
A woman is an emotional animal, her emotions are easily controlled by emotions, not as rational and logical as men. It’s impossible for you to persuade and reason to make her like you, but… By mobilizing her emotions, you can make her like you.
If you can make her laugh, she will be with you.
If she is angry with you, she will also invest in you.
If she cries for you, she will like you.
Most women’s behavior is related to their emotions.
The way to build attraction is to turn her on and off. You should try to make her experience happiness, curiosity, hope, touching, excitement, jealousy, anger, disappointment, sadness, worry, etc.
The key to emotional arousal is to let her “unexpected” rather than let her quietly and boring with you, such as:
Funny, make her laugh.
Funny, make fun of her (make fun of her)
Cold, challenge her (ask for her, make a screening, let her prove herself).
3, expressing interest
If a woman likes you, she will give you the opportunity to upgrade your relationship. When her window opens, you need to actively promote the relationship. The way to upgrade the relationship is to express your interest in her.
If you don’t act when the relationship gets to the point where it’s time to hold hands, your honesty won’t make her think you’re a good person, it will only disappoint her.
Expressing interest in both language and body:
1, oral interest (praise, interest statement, invisible expression)
2, intimate contact (holding hands, hugging, kissing, sex)
How to express oral interest:
Praise the reasons you appreciate her, rationalize why you like her, such as “I think you are very considerate to others”;
Give her a good vision and plan what you do together, such as “I want to make you a breakfast tomorrow”;
Ask for a relationship, make sure she accepts it and say I love you, like “Happy to be with you.”
Physical contact requires attention:
The first time when holding hands, it is best to hold a few seconds and then let go.
The first time she kisses, as long as she doesn’t obviously refuse you, avoid you, she agrees.
Intimate contact is smooth transition at every stage.
For example, holding hands to kiss.
There’s a lot of transitional intimacy, touching hair, forehead, ears, and then kissing tests, so long as she doesn’t resist, you can attack boldly.
Jumping from hand to hand directly will suddenly appear, and the opponent’s resistance will be very strong.
The key to expressing interest is to step by step, to keep women from feeling stressed, and to come up with a statement that is likely to be rejected.
According to the principle of courtship, the right way to chase a girl is: men attract women first, women open the window, and men upgrade their relationship.
As long as you understand the mechanics of chasing girls, you will know these three questions clearly in the process of chasing girls.
What do you need to do?
Now what’s the next step?
Where is the problem?
1, the first step to show the value is not good, directly eliminated.
If your problem is that women don’t pay attention to you in the first place, and they don’t give you the opportunity, then you need to improve your value.
2, skip the second steps to attract and direct to the third step.
It turns out that she refused you and began to avoid you. Or send you a good card to make you a friend.
3, we have made the first and second steps without third steps.
If you don’t dare to upgrade and delay expressing your interest in her, she will think you don’t like her, her patience will soon be polished and the window will close. The longer the delay, the less chance.