Hello, I have worked now. The girl I pursued is still a student. She used to work part-time in our company, then she asked for a contact. She has a general attitude towards me. Sometimes she can talk a few words, sometimes she doesn’t talk to me. I chatted with her, she would send me some Taobao screenshots from time to time, ask me how about this thing, and then ask me if I would like to send her, has been several times, the previous time I bought to send her, and now let me pay directly, I do not know how to refuse her?
She asked you to buy something for her a few times, and asked you how it was, and then asked you to buy her. Later, she paid you directly. Start with some compliance tests to determine if you’re being obedient, and if so, treat you like an ATM.
Why does she do this to you?
Because of you, she doesn’t like you at all.
Just feel that you still have the value to use and do not need it, so you pay the bill again and again.
If she really likes you, she won’t let you buy things for her three or two times, because women are afraid that they will often be considered material.
But she did not.
She is very ambitious to you, the last few tentative to you Taobao screenshots, you have been good to buy her, she can be sure that this man is silly money, obedient, can be used as atm.
If you were so obedient, she’d have to push herself in, so she saved the temptation and threw it to you.
You don’t know how to turn her down. You may be afraid of directly rejecting her. She will be angry and she will ignore you anymore. There was still some hope, and perhaps there was no hope at all.
What should you do?
It’s very simple. She’ll let you pay for it next time. You can say to her like this: Sorry, we seem to have a little misunderstanding. Did you treat me like a boyfriend, or else you’ll always let me buy something for you. Then we can reverse the relationship pattern through the framework.
If she says no, you say, “I don’t want to cause misunderstanding. I’m only willing to spend money on my girlfriend.”
So you set up a framework: if she buys you anything, it will make you boyfriend.
So the label she gave you was automatically removed.
Of course, maybe she will never find you again. But you just left a girl, which is not a bad thing. Because this kind of woman with heavy heart, skillful routine, deep knowledge of men’s psychology, easy to play between the palms of the men, you can not put her, even together, may also be green.
Maybe it’s the best result. She thinks you’re a man and won’t compromise easily. She’ll look up at you and try to conquer you.
Only by showing a strong attitude will she truly respect you, not your spare tire and wallet.
But I have to remind you that with a woman like this, you have to have your own bottom line of principles. If you find out she’s a little bit of an ass-rider looking for a horse, you should cut it off immediately. Even though it seems that she’s in some way you like it now, your decision is absolutely right in the long run.
For a long time, you sink too deep, injured will only be you, and she chooses more, more you not much, less you a lot, without you, she can go to the other way.