Every day, people ask, “how do I catch up?” “How can we chat up and not be rejected?”
It seems that how to chat is a skill that many brothers want to know.
My assistant Xiaowen was arranged by me last month to do chat-up exercises, received more than 20 mobile phone numbers, he summed up the experience is not afraid to refuse, he has no loss, brave chat up the first girl, chat up the second, it is much easier.
Chatting up is a fun experience. You’ll get to know women more and more. In fact, women’s hearts and appearances sometimes differ greatly. The beauty of a woman makes many people shy away, so only a few confident men can attract them.
There are gains, of course, there will be failure, not every girl is easy to talk, if you meet a girl walking in a hurry, or just be scolded by the boss, especially bad mood, your skills are not necessarily good. The best way to deal with it is to stop pestering and smile away.
It’s not difficult to strike up a conversation. Mentality is important. I’ve also provided a lot of chat-up tips for different situations before, and today I’ll share my own chat-up principles.
My summing up principle is: a sense of security, direct, sincere and gentlemanly.
Why need a sense of security?
A beautiful woman was walking along the road when suddenly a boy came to talk to her. She was sure to be on guard. “What’s this man doing? Promote? Lady-killer? Or is it a hooligan? ”
Therefore, the first step is to make girls feel safe.
Between strangers, there is a safe distance, the distance is you stretch out your arms, can not touch each other’s distance, such a distance begins to chat, the other party will feel that they are not threatened.
When you say hello, step back a little bit with one foot. It also makes the other person feel no threat. Body language is easily accepted by the subconscious. She will feel it naturally.
In addition, if you chat up a girl’s “site”, the other party will feel less threatened.
You’re downstairs from the company she works for, or at a party with her friends, and she feels safer because she’s familiar with the environment.
Attention, try not to chat up at work, many models often receive a variety of business cards, but models will politely put them away, after work are thrown away directly, because these people have not intersected with her at all.
Of course, this is not absolute.
Finish talking about safety and say “direct and sincere” again.
If you pick up a girl, it’s an obvious intention. If you’re more direct, you’ll be more efficient.
“Hello, see you there, feel very comfortable, and come running in the heat of my brain.”
“Hello, I think your temperament is very good. I really want to know you, and I will come over with a thick face.”
“Hello, I’ve been seeing you a lot lately, and I’ve been longing to meet you. I came here this time without knowing why.”
And so forth, “direct” indicates your purpose. The advantage is that you can directly judge the other person’s feelings, if the response is good, that you can continue to talk, if cold, retreat, save time and effort.
If the other person is willing to stop and talk to you, then of course, it is self-introduction, a brief introduction to themselves, a bit more sincere.
At this time, girls will still have some scruples. You can give a false time limit.
For example, I can only stay for a minute. My friend is waiting for me there.
So girls will be a little easier, after all, you are still strangers, strangers entangled for too long or reluctant.
When she takes off her guard, you can talk more, you can borrow a topic to extend, for example, you are ready to go shopping.
Talk a little bit, create an atmosphere of interaction, find a reason to collect numbers.
For example: Nice to meet you, but I don’t know when I’ll see you next time. Can I exchange my mobile phone number?
At this time, as long as interaction is good, ordinary girls do not mind exchanging phone numbers.
If a girl insists on not offering, you don’t have to force it. At this time, gentleman’s demeanor is very important, you can say: Never mind, I hope to see you again in the future.
This is my accosted principle: a sense of security, direct, sincere and gentlemanly.
I’m not result-oriented, just enjoying the chat-up process. Many of my heterosexual friends met through chat-ups, and I find it amazing. The key is to take the first step, and then you will feel more and more simple.