Many men’s thoughts are very simple. It’s nothing bad.
However, many simple men are not high EQ, in the process of chasing girls, too old, it is easy for girls to say that you are good, but…
Recently I read a lot of messages, and most of my brothers fell into the “friendship zone”.
I think it’s very necessary to write an article that lists some of the common things that are called “You’re fine, but…” Behavioral characteristics.
The girl said, “you are fine, but…” There are 4 common reasons:
1, one-way pay
Many people like girls, so they buy them for her, send them to her, and do a lot of things for her.
This is not bad, the premise is to achieve an interactive balance.
Without exchange, you will become worthless. This is not utilitarian, it is human nature.
The principle is simple: do not give her anything unless she does something for you first.
(This principle is limited to the attraction stage, and when you establish a connection, you become dependent on you, and sudden surprises move her. However, before she is attracted to you, any romance and surprise can be regarded as harassment.
Remember, be sure to “exchange” if you give unconditionally, she will not cherish, people will only care about those who only pay to win the value.
This is not just money, it needs to be understood flexibly.
If a woman gets used to wh at you’re giving, she doesn’t care what you’re doing and thinks you’re ambitious, so she starts the shield and becomes wary of you.
Because she feels that she has conquered you, you have no difficulty with her, just wave your hand, you will be called to waving.
This is the biggest mistake many men make.
2, there are too many problems.
What’s your name? You’re from there. What do you do in your spare time? Do you like me? What are you doing?
Men with low EQ always feel that the more they know each other, the more they can catch up with her, so they keep asking questions.
In a sense, questioning can put you in a weak position, and problems will be defensive.
This is not only in the relationship between men and women. Who likes to be censorship?
If a woman isn’t attracted to you yet, trying to establish a deep understanding of the relationship immediately, she’ll think you’re strange and think, “Do I know you very well?” “Why do I answer you?” Then polite back to a few words, when it is too much to bear, “ha ha”, “Oh”…
3, premature praise
Many men like to know a woman just now. They must praise her. You are beautiful. Can you recognize her? Can you leave a phone, beauty? I am so happy to be with you. Wait.
Without attracting women, you will praise your early intentions and expose your ambitions and desires.
Praise, not beg, under the premise of control framework.
Compliments should be given to each other’s reward after perceiving the true interests of the other person.
You can praise a woman, but it’s not because of her, it’s because of you and your position, let her prove herself in front of you with “screening” and then praise the other side, she will not only be willing to accept, but also let her into your “framework,” she is “flattering” you, she will feel, she gets your praise, is Only through hard work can we win.
4, unprincipled cater for women’s needs.
Many men have theexperience of girls saying what they want, you overhear it, going everywhere, saving a few months’living expenses to buy it for her, thinking that if she wants it, if you have it, you’ll be content with it. Their idea is simple. They want to impress her by satisfying the needs of women. There is nothing wrong with meeting the needs of girls, but girls only need her favorite people to satisfy her.
A courtesy of a person she does not like will scare her away.
In addition, once you put in a great deal of effort, she finally got along with another man, and hated because of love, the hatred was doubled.
In short, it is not difficult to stay away from the good man card and stay away from the friendship zone, so long as you avoid the above actions.
The same method can only bring about the same result. Now we should change our mind and strive for true love through attraction.