When I didn’t have a girlfriend before, my family always urged me to find a girlfriend. Now I have a girlfriend, and my family always urged me to get married. I’ve talked to her about getting married several times, and she doesn’t want to talk about it. She’s not in a hurry. What do you think I should do?
She is not keen to discuss marriage with you. It shows that she is not ready yet, and she doesn’t want to get married yet.
Under what circumstances do women want to get married?
1 you give her enough sense of security. She also wants to find a way to rely on it.
This is the most common, when a woman through contact, you think you are a willing to walk for her, very reliable man, just s he also needs a long-term dependence, want to marry is a logical thing.
2 you are very good, very good, is her favorite person, she hopes to catch you.
You’re excellent in every way, very attractive to her, afraid you’ll be abducted by other women, marriage certificate like a guarantee.
3, under the pressure of family members.
Although you are not particularly agreeable to her, but also OK, because of the pressure at home, she does not want to wander alone, want to have a home earlier.
Marriage is also something you’ve reached a certain level of emotional status, and you’ve taken into account other factors, such as the opinions of your parents.
She doesn’t want to talk about marriage now. You have to figure out why she doesn’t want to marry.
1, is it too young?
If so, of course, she is not in a hurry, not free enough waves, as early as the cage of marriage, early by marriage bondage, this is not what she wants now.
2, you need to look at your relationship.
When two people come together, affection is the foundation. If she did not reach the level of marriage, she would surely be inconsistent.
To increase emotional concentration, you need to give her more emotional value, experience more interesting and memorable memories, and have more glue-like lingering.
3 realistic problems
Apart from considering the problems between two people, there are many other factors to consider. The house, the betrothal gift, the custom, the value of your parents and so on, because she needs to leave her parents who love her and enter a strange family, she can not be so rash, need more security, and a sense of belonging.
4 long-term consideration
What are the long-term considerations? When she has to distract herself from doing these things and responsibilities, for example, having a baby later, taking care of the baby, men have to take on more financial responsibilities.
If you don’t have a stable job and income, and you can’t guarantee your family’s normal expenses, women will run away from marriage because they don’t have a sense of security.
In short, you need to combine the current emotional state, as well as the actual problems faced, to find out why she does not want to get married, and then targeted to find solutions to the problem.